Dwelling on the past is so sad by G. Hugh Bodell
I have chosen to launch this blog with a post today, a day when the theme mumbled or shouted, globally, is ‘things are about to change’.
This piece is not about how things will change, it is about how my follower demographic, those of us over sixty, will deal with the way things were…yesterday, not only for this event but for yesterdays in general.
As of noon today, January 20, 2017, about half the population of the United States is over-the-top ecstatic about what happens tomorrow and the other half are in a deep depression because they yearn for yesterday or one could say the status quo.
I’d have to say that I’m with the ecstatic group, not because of their politics, rather, because fretting over the results of an event is so sad. The ecstatic group have rapidly discarded the way things were and are merrily speculating on the way things will be.
More and more today I find people seeking answers to why they feel so negative, so much of the time. Answering that question has become quite a business. Search ‘Positive Thinking Books’ on the internet and you will get over 160,000 hits.
Browsing several of these books I learned something…the ecstatic group has the answer.
The two common foundation principles running through all advice on positive thinking:
1] Put the past behind you, move forward and reach for the stars’.
2] Surround yourself with positive people (I always add, …and chase away the negative folk).
Fifty-one years ago, I was sleeping in doorways in lower New York and pan handling for quarters on the corner of Broadway and Houston Street, to buy cheap wine.
That particular lifestyle ended after a year but I was never far from making a return trip.
I never went back but it took ten years for me to embrace complete renewal.
Forty-One years ago, thanks to many good, giving and positive people, that all ended and I began the climb to achieve success and happiness in many areas.
My secret, I put the past behind me, whether it be forty-one years ago, or a flat tire this morning and I concentrate on moving forward. Even at the age that I am (figure that out from the information on my personal web site) I am still reaching for the stars.
Part two, I eliminate negative people from my life almost as soon as I realize they are toxic.
2016 was a year filled with negative bombardment, the media marketed hate, distrust and negativity. It was everywhere on all media, in all directions. In addition, it was the topic people wanted to get to, as soon as they could, in any gathering, party, bowling, church, anywhere.
My answer was simple; I shut down my social media accounts, I confined my television viewing to pure entertainment without agendas and I subscribed to emergency news flashes of dire potential happenings or disasters, (this, so I would be aware of a nuclear attack were it to occur.)
Thanks to caller ID I have successfully avoided all negative people quite effectively.
I have launched three personal service businesses and am currently writing a new novel, all of which require my involvement with human beings. You would be surprised that once you set the tone of positivity in personal interactions, it is both easy and fulfilling to keep the interaction on a positive track. People want to be positive but don’t know how, but wow, are they attracted to an aura of positivity.
I wish I could say that I have some hope that now that we are on the cusp of change, all the toxic negativity will disappear from the media and from peoples’ conversations and all will move on to hope for the future…but it won’t.
Those of us that have lived more than half of our lives have no time for this nonsense.
In the words of Johnny Mercer and Harold Arlen in the song by Bing Crosby;
You got to accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
And latch on to the affirmative
Don’t mess with mister in between
…and if you are not successful with your quest to be a happy and positive person today, wait twenty-four-hours, you get a chance to put today behind you and get it right tomorrow.
Don’t lose faith and don’t give up, it took me ten years, but once I got it, it changed my life forever. Positivity is as natural and effortless to me today as is breathing.
Put the toxicity of yesterdays behind you and think of them only to learn, then embrace today and your tomorrows and allow yourself to reach for the stars. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
G. Hugh Bodell is an Author, Satirist, Journalist and Publisher;
Visit him and his books at: www.ghughbodell.com
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